Brentwood Diocese News
Almighty and merciful Father,
bestow your grace upon the Diocese of Brentwood.
We give thanks for the witness of past generations and pray for
a fresh outpouring of the Holy Spirit that we may be ever more
faithful to proclaiming the Gospel of Christ.
Bless our Bishop, the Clergy, Religious and Faithful of our Diocese
as we work together to evangelise our Diocese
and fulfil our Vision, and graciously grant plentiful vocations
to the Priesthood, the Consecrated Life, Single Life and the
Sacrament of Marriage.
Strengthen us in the communion of faith, hope and charity,
united in prayer with our Holy Father the Pope and the Universal Church.
We ask this through Jesus Christ, Our Lord. Amen.
Our Lady of Lourdes, pray for us.
Saints Erconwald, Cedd and Edmund of Canterbury, pray for us.
Please click on the links below for Bishop Alan's Christmas message and Pastoral letter
Supporting Engaged and Married Couples During COVID-19
At the moment couples
preparing for marriage later this year or even early next year face a great
deal of uncertainty and the prospect of difficult choices which might even be a
test of their relationship. It is important that we maintain contact with
couples whom we are preparing for marriage and accompany them as best we can at
this time. Even if it seems as though a wedding will have to be postponed, the
time ahead can fruitfully be used by a couple to deepen their understanding of
the vocation to marriage, thus it would be beneficial to pursue some form of
marriage preparation with them.
If you follow a formal programme
of marriage preparation in your parish, it may be possible to hold sessions remotely
using a videoconferencing service such as Zoom or Microsoft Teams.
Alternatively, and this might
be especially helpful for couples looking at a longer engagement, couples could
work through the Smart Loving Engaged programme at their own pace. This
can be done purely online or with the support of a sponsor couple. Using the online
version does not preclude individual sessions with the priest or deacon who is
overseeing their preparation or indeed with another couple, whether remotely or
face-to-face once restrictions are lifted. Even if there is a short window
between the lifting of restrictions and the wedding it should be possible to
arrange a couple of face-to-face meetings, but by following an online course in
the meantime most of the necessary ground will have been covered. There is a
cost but it should not be prohibitive (the online only option is significantly
less than the other options). Couples can register for Smart Loving Engaged at https://smartloving.org/engaged/
(NB: this is an Australian site, so billing is in Australian Dollars!)
Needless to say, it will still be necessary to satisfy the canonical and civil requirements, including the requirement to give notice to the local registrar. At the time of writing it is not possible to give notice but if a couple is hoping to go ahead with a summer wedding they will need to contact the registry office at the earliest opportunity if they haven’t done so yet and the urgency of this may need to be impressed upon them.
Undoubtedly, whilst some
couples may relish the extra time together afforded by the present lockdown
restrictions, for some couples financial and other worries combined with being
stuck indoors may not be conducive to good marital relations. Indeed this time
may bring underlying tensions to the surface – which if handled in the right
way could even be beneficial in the long term. Whilst the media glibly suggests
the coronavirus may lead to either a baby boom or extra business for divorce
lawyers, we should be alert to the need for support so at least the latter can
You might therefore like to
publicise, or at least bear in mind for anyone who contacts you looking for
guidance, that Marriage Care are offering counselling via video
conferencing during the lockdown, and Relate also offer this service.
Couples experiencing stress
in their marriage might also benefit from working through the online Smart
Loving Breakthrough course at https://smartloving.org/breakthrough/
(this is currently offered at a 50% discount).
The particular emotional and
mental health needs of children should not be overlooked, and Brentwood
Catholic Children’s Society continues to provide vital support in these
areas. Information on the current arrangements can be found at https://www.bccs.org.uk/who-we-are/coronavirus-update
Those parishes which are
continuing to circulate a weekly newsletter in some form could include a
regular notice pointing to some of these services. Here is a suggested wording:
SUPPORTING MARRIED COUPLES: If you are
experiencing difficulties in your marriage, whether due to the additional
stresses cause by the coronavirus crisis or other reasons, help is available.
Marriage Care is currently offering remote counselling, or you might find the
Smart LovingBreakthrough course helpful. Visit marriagecare.org.uk or smartloving.org/breakthrough.
Please don’t leave it too late to get help
You might also consider making use of the weekly Marriage Matters scripture reflections produced by www.twoinoneflesh.org.uk
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